Jul 22, 2008 | by
alto A personal website discussing ideas around culture, community & connection; sex of course being a given. Our last 20 articles are found below.
Authored by alto, a 41 y/o gay flight paramedic, recent MFA creative writing graduate & single dad to an insane canine. Current obsessions: a new novel, & Starbucks banana chocolate smoothies.

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Though spanning several different theory domains and priorities for the
movement, all the resources listed on this page understand the idea of women
being a distinct and oppressed class in our current patriarchal
culture. Each of the following groups or websites works in their own
specific ways to end gender based oppression, and violence against
women perpetrated by men.
The sites on this page all have varied and sometimes divergent approaches to
racial justice and racial understanding. They write about, discuss, and
usually but not always have a personal or educational connection to,
issues of race, ethnicity, and racism in North America. All actively
work towards a goal of eradicating racist and white supremacist
attitude and action.
These organizations and web sites write from the perspective that for most people, sexual orientations and gender identify be viewed on a human continuum of diverse sexuality and gender deportment. They further believe that all are entitled to nothing less than full rights and access ascribed to all citizens.
I intentionally place the transphobia website first in this list to center the idea and demonstrate my sincere belief that the mainstream lesbian and gay community must offer full acceptance and support to our trans brothers and sisters
Todays entry is more to clarify than respond to some of the angry howls and misunderstood intentions that accompanied my recent post, A Tip For The Butch Obsessed.. An entry that generated quite the comment participation, most notably yesterday, due in large part to this piece. Besides the usual back and forth barbs and shots normally tossed around on the net, there were some interesting responses, particularly one I responded to today on Jack's site.
As these discussions usually do, they got me to thinking. One of the questions I spent a bit of time on was if we, and I mean those on both sides, really attempt to understand perspective or the core philosophy f the other. I'm guilty of not doing that. And frankly, when things like human rights are involved, I'm also guilty of not being too concerned I'm doing that.
So from the archives....here is where I am coming from on the whole steaming piss poit that is gay and lesbian rights. Written last October in the middle of the flap over trans inclusion in the Employment Non Discrimination Bill. Comments are from last October and have been opened again.
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The last couple days have seen a lot of writing, specific to the arguments regarding gay conservatives, and the vast differences in a clear binary of competing political perspectives. Some of the points central to the following piece are the specific frameworks and building blocks in what are common ways of referencing real, and demonstrated examples of oppression in daily life. That is a concept I am convinced that gay conservatives could benefit from. As denying your own experience is considered a largely unhealthy dynamic, specific to several cognitive pathologies.
More to that point, I'll attempt to outline how an end goal of an earned acceptance, is a very troubling dynamic for cultures with high examples of individual and group specific oppression. One thing I have always experienced as a very annoying, headache inducing level of frustration, is the dynamic where gay conservatives would rather swallow razor blades than simply admit that in some cases, the liberal and societally empathetic ideas around certain kinds of "victim experience" are in fact very authentic ones, with demonstrated example in the lives of those oppressed on a basis of group identity.
Today's common mantra of post gay ideology, is that organized gay liberation in today's world, is a somewhat outdated and antiquated concept. In effect, collective responses to oppression have ceased to matter, or be effective. In this article I will demonstrate why such a movement can be effective, and why today, it matters more than ever.
I, like many other gay men do not know an existence that is marred in any real way by a manifestation of gay oppression. My career, housing, educational advancements, and many other things, not the least of which would be my personal safety, have never been challenged due to my orientation. But let's examine the reality of the "fem" guy, who may be harassed for simply walking down the street. Or the woman who is defined by, thus devalued over, the size of her breasts. Perhaps the woman who affects a less than traditional female deportment. Some may view these examples as small or petty, but it isn't your voice being silenced with "nice tits" is it?
Though the reality of gay oppression is that no matter how perfectly executed your "straight acting" abilities are, God forbid you walk out of a bar and come face to face with six baseball bats in the hands of six adrenalin ramped teenagers. Your "straight acting" abilities will mean very little. Gay oppression may not be my or your reality today, but you can bet it is for many, many people.
Reflecting on the history of the movement, the early structure of gay liberation took shape via two of the most influential movements in history. The focus on group resolve, non violent civil disobedience, symbolic protest, and a highly visible presence, was garnered directly from the black civil rights movement of the 1960’s.
However the theory which informed our philosophy, and provided a historical context in which to view gay oppression, was the same one that informed the radical feminist movement. This subset of feminist ideology challenged the contention that gender roles are always biological, and that the assumption of such belief served to place men above women in power structure, as well as social and sexual currency.The idea being, a positive biologic attribute among men (objective physical strength) was seen as inherent justification for the limitations assigned to women, since somehow women were lacking attribute, or more commonly, the lack of attribute implied deficient.
Radical feminism proposed that gay oppression be viewed in the same context, as a popular theory of the day was the belief that gender roles, specifically pathology of, was in and of itself related to a homosexual orientation. Radical feminism asserted that gender identity and sexual orientation were ultimately very separate mechanisms. The clear analogy between mans attempt to regulate female sexuality, and the inherent fear of not controlling it, is the same dynamic that attempts to regulate gay sexuality. Both identities, a gay one, as well as a self actualized female one, directly challenge the inherent belief structure, social construct, and worth of attribute arguments central to a dominant patriarchal structure.
When the gay liberation movement was in its early years, it had a very simple and well articulated goal. Perhaps getting back to the truth which defined it, is necessary. A truth in it's most stripped down form, is simply about our civil rights. The idea that we hold as a value, an unfettered right to love whom and how we choose, without a dictating, controlling, or limiting hand. I imagine that is a goal most would support.
So it is with the above in mind, identification as a gay Republican for example, confuses me, as I see it as pandering, selling out. However those are my own political beliefs, and should not automatically be the mantra of a collective gay community on the basis of its "progressive" attributes. The rights of gay republicans, gay hairdressers, sports players, and every other variety of gay person are equal under the constitution. It is our own community where the equality line begins to blur.
Individual decisions are, by design, fully and totally autonomous. This is a hallmark and unifying principle, and all of our freedoms in this country are built upon it. It must be afforded as much respect as any other fundamental right we realize at our core. The grounding philosophy in gay liberation was always based on perusing a goal of equality within greater society. Like most social movements, theory and practice, at some point will deviate.
Enter the concept of assimilation. Although some may call it strategy, assimilation in so far as “being just like them” does not work. Many times the idea of an on par existence to greater society, is at the core of unease present in those who wish to deny rights to gays and lesbians. Assimilation with the end goal of an earned acceptance, serves to be a divisive factor in any progressive movement. It presumes the want of acceptance is based upon a valid and legitimate societal denial of that acceptance. Without directly challenging the legitimacy of the denial, it effectively says that gays need to "prove their worth".
Historically, that has been a problem with the African American movement, the women's movement, and virtually every other minority movement in this countries history. Part of the reason the women's movement and the civil rights movement have seen the moderate success they have, has resulted from addressing that problem. Specific effectiveness occurred only when the movements operated from the premise that their fundamental rights are immutable, not something to be "earned".
The reality of most gays and lesbians is, and always has been, that the majority of us are average citizens, whom most straight individuals would have no clue what our sexual orientation was, unless we specifically told them. That may be the reality, however the following is the seminal point many seem to have forgotten. “Passing” is not an attribute that defines a gay persons worth, nor is it a marker of “better than”.
What is concerning today, is that many from our community seem to have adopted the belief that our exclusion from aspects of life we aspire to, is a result of stereotypical or “bad" behavior on the part of some gay people. This thesis is flawed in several aspects. Certainly behaviors occur that are destructive, and I refer to mainly the gay male community, as the women, like usual, seem to have quite a heads up in relational ability.
Though as destructive as some behavior can be, it is a very misinformed analogy when the lack of human rights advances are placed on the shoulders of those not in the "mainstream". Fundamental justice principles view rights in an individual, not a collective perspective. That to is how they are written, litigated and decided. At least in theory.
Can behavior support and encourage cultural insensitivity and stereotype? Of course. But again, that is a price we pay for having the right to live a life free from prosecution on a basis of personal deportment. Whatever some individual gay men and women do or don’t do, is not inherently tied into cultural worth. There will always be stereotypes. Because stereotypes exist for a reason. And there is nothing inherently wrong with the gay stereotype of an effeminate man or a butch woman. They may at times seem limiting, and they may have been a historical root of much bigotry and assumption, but the response to those false beliefs, is one that defines liberalism for me.The idea that those images and stereotypes need to be defended and protected on a stronger scaler, never sold down the river.
For whatever reason, there will always be those in any community who are not mainstream, who theoretically could not exist in mainstream society. We see that in elements of the gay community, as well as every other attribute focused community. It is exactly for such reasons, we must have a strong united movement. If not by issue, then by principle.
Because when most of us exist along with regular culture day in day out, resentment often builds slowly to those “stereotypical” gays. It becomes easier and easier to marginalize and separate, and soon it becomes an exacting demonstration of a dynamic which those who now embrace, once had been committed to fighting against. This is the most damaging thing we can do as people from a community with a history of oppression. Since it effectively legitimizes the oppression, thus feeding off an identical framework.
"They aren’t like us, therefore they are less than". That mindset demonstrates the following:
A denial of access based on a flawed and subjective assignment of what confers a right to access.
That is key, as it is one of the hallmarks of all forms of minority discrimination in this country. It was the wrong equation then, it is the wrong equation in 2007, and it will always be the wrong equation in the eyes of people who truly understand, support, and demand equality.
For those of you who do not recognize the name of the couple in the title, let alone what I am congratulating them for, the main points can be summarized in this interview from The Advocate. Out of all the "journalism" that surrounds the birth of this couples first child, I find this piece is the least sensationalistic. Sad, but in 2008 I really felt that the fact that one of the parents was born a woman and has began the transition to change her gender, would be something that people would attempt to at least understand, if not support.
Thomas Beatie, the individual who has begun his gender transition, made the decision to carry the couples child to term. And yesterday, the child the couple had waited for made a healthy and timely appearance into the world. Though I can't help but wonder just what type of world we exist in when the default rhetoric from my supposed "progressive" community, is as full of vile invective as was demonstrated in this thread.
While this issue is one that usually brings my impatience with stupidity and bigotry to a level where any rational refute is something I am not capable of, yesterday, for whatever reason, I was.
The following is the comment that I submitted in defense of allowing this couple the simple luxury to rejoice in the birth of their first child.
First of all, for the rather insular and mouth breathing examples of mediocre intelligence that just can't get their thick heads around divergent concepts of what may constitute gender, in all its complex and fluid manifestations, try this one on for size:
America does not see a difference between Thomas Beatie and you. Why? Because the next time you take it up the ass, that, is in every way a flagrant violation of gender roles and norms according to the majority of your fellow citizens who would enjoy seeing you stripped of human rights. You fuck with the dominant paradigms of rigid and binary constructions, and do you really think there will be a measurable difference in their understanding of who you, vs. someone like Thomas Beatie is? That's why his oppression is your oppression, whether you agree or not. If you have let it slip your mind, we are not writing the play book here!
The very wonderful fact is that Thomas Beatie and his partner are the proud parents of a newborn. Despite your howls of "he is not a man because I say so". See how that works? Families can define for themselves who they are and how they identify and label. Can you not have the class, intellect and very human sense of grace to simply allow them that? Maybe even offer them congratulations on a wonderful addition to their life together. I really do not understand why that cannot be the default response here.
I will make a bold request here, and suggest that if you cannot offer this couple support, please, save us your offering of discussion points, and instead just shut the fuck up. Thank you in advance.
Jul 4, 2008 | by
alto When I decided to post the entry, The End Of America, which includes a video of Naomi Wolf's University Of Washington speech discussing her new book The End Of America: Letter Of Warning To A Young Patriot, about the potential for a fascist shift in the American political landscape, I knew it would generate a response. As is often the case in the blog world, just what type of response, was what really knocked me for a loop.
While my politics are decidedly left of center, and my positions on some issues are personally referenced through a strong conviction, I wouldn't really describe myself as "a disconnected from reality, unhinged radical zealot looking for conspiracy theories" type of guy. Apparently, many of you would. The response via email has been the largest response for a single post since I began this on line adventure over two and a half years ago. Considering some of the other posts that have generated large amounts of comment and email, that is huge. And frankly, puzzling. Especially when most of those who most vehemently disagreed, had not even watched the video.
Having thought about this at length, and then having discussed this with a few friends, as well as an acquaintance, who, suffice it to say, is positioned to know and experience very well those labels and descriptions, a few thoughts came to mind. All of which revolved around the possibility that many people consider even the idea that what is being described in that video, and what has been written in Wolf's book, so terrifying, that they are literally rejecting it.
If you will allow for that possibility, I am going to ask you to consider three things through a somewhat different lens. Specifically, how comfortable would you be if this country was to:
Maybe you are thinking the descriptions sound unnecessarily hyperbolic? Perhaps that I am adding a "worst case scenario" feel to what are simply routine concerns in a time of conflict or war? Devoid of relevant context, I would agree. However the relevant context is key. Because the three points I asked you to consider are descriptions of the intent and justification for the creation and implementation of The US Patriot Act. So the consideration of those points is actually moot. They are already in place in this country, and have been for a while.
If you have yet to consider the argument Naomi Wolf has made in The End Of America: Letter Of Warning To A Young Patriot, and the argument she continues to passionately make in lecture halls around this country, please, at least watch the video, or read her book. For more information, please visit the American Freedom Campaign.
Mar 31, 2008 | by
alto Last night I finished the new Naomi Wolf (Rhodes scholar and author of The Beauty Myth) book The End Of America: Letter To A Young Patriot. I'll be blunt. If you care about your future as a citizen in the democratic country in which you live, you will read this book. It's a truly terrifying account of how the US is currently positioned to lose its entire framework of democratic structure and governance.
Through exhaustive documenting of historical example, Wolf demonstrates how the plan, implementation, and preparation for the US to become a fascist state has been underway and at work since that fateful day in September 2001. Her thesis is contingent upon the following ten steps. Steps that throughout history, have foreshadowed every rise to fascism and dictatorship the world has seen. From Russia, to Nazi Germany, to Chille, Wolf details the subtle and not so subtle moves that usher in a new way of existing in a society that no one realizes until too late, has unilaterally changed.
Do the following sound at all familiar? They should. Each one has already occured, to some dgree, in this country.
The Ten Steps Of Fascism:
1. Invoke a terrifying internal and external enemy
2. Create a gulag (secret prisons which torture)
3. Develop a thug caste (para military force: Blackwater)
4. Set up an internal surveillance system
5. Harass citizens' groups
6. Engage in arbitrary detention and release
7. Target key individuals (journalists, media, celebrities)
8. Control the press
9. Dissent equals treason
10. Suspend the rule of law
Instead of me offering a deconstruction of the finer points, my endorsement is simple; just read the book and decide for yourself. The following video is a long one, coming in at just over forty five minutes. When you have time, take it in. Not only is Naomi Wolf an engaging speaker, but what she has to say will scare, and hopefully motivate you to action.
If anything in this post or video has spurred you to action, here is something you can do RIGHT NOW. Go to the website American Freedom Campaign and sign their petition. At the large risk of sounding hyperbolic, there is really no time to waste.
Mar 24, 2008 | by
alto 
With the Democratic nomination in somewhat of a tight race, the increased buzz around gay rights is palatable. And that, is largely a good thing. Where I start to get discouraged, is in the constant reference to the supposed human rights catch all - the "we were born that way" argument. Here's my take on the little narrative of Gay: Born that way, or a choice?.
I should start out with my harsh and one sided view of this silly, circuitous discussion. I do not know why I am gay. Secondly, I don't really care why I happen to be gay. If you ask me why I think I am gay, I will say I think it is most likely a combination of biology, genetics, and perhaps, to a smaller degree, a set of cultural and familial variables, which allow one to be more or less accepting of oneself, and then to follow through with a life as an integrated sexual being, however that resonates.
The data and science informing much of the discourse, is for the most part, still waiting to be published. That is because it is still waiting to be discovered. It is not currently nor will be in the near future, a top priority. While there is a great amount of reason to think on both the biologic and the genetic end there are reasons for homosexuality, nothing is concrete. As we have yet to establish what constitutes sexual orientation in heterosexual adults, in adults of a homosexual orientation, let's not stop the press just yet.
But let me ask what I view as an important question. Given the above, why the unwavering stance and "must be seen as irrefutable" idea that orientation is biologic in all cases, end of story? I'm really glad those who hold that stance had the complex factors of an integrated gay identity imparted to them in their high chair by the gay home schooling super hero. Although not many of us have self actualized at the higher pinnacles of Maslow's needs framework, by the time we started junior kindergarten.
To these people I have a question. With everything you believe, everything that you view science with, and everything that to you exists as fact, what if one day you are proven wrong? "No it's not natural, it's an illness. In 1973, when the AMA removed homosexuality from the DSM, and reclassified it as a human sexuality variable, sorry they were wrong".
What then? Because the ones that assert their biological construction with aggressive vehemence, are usually the ones who have been screaming "See, see we are just like you! Give us rights now, give us rights now". In my mind, there is nothing more completely abhorrent than someone who, through calculating assimilation, maneuvers their way into knowing inclusion. And frankly, there is nothing more dangerous than pinning issues of rights and freedoms to biological determinants.
Frankly, I don't know when, or if, we will find a causative factor to sexual orientation in human beings. From a purely physiological perspective, it would no doubt be a great read. As to any other reason, specifically one to garner social currency through a line drawn along political and philosophical ideologies, it is as I said, a dangerous game. Do we really need to have any questioning of the idea of choice, one that by constitutional mandate has clearly and unequivocally stated the government has no place in sexual decision making parameters, taken away from us? Should biology be found to be irrelevant in creating orientation, continuing with an essentialist argument will completely frame the strategy for those who wish to deny gay men and lesbians rights.
As a community of people who do not know full inclusion in greater society, who the hell cares, in the grand scheme, why I relate to men sexually and emotionally? The fact is I do, and that's my right. It is also my right, by virtue of this countries principles, that I be seen as having the opportunity to live a life unencumbered by bigoted belief and policy.
Given my post of earlier today, and given some of the ongoing debates within the progressive, feminist, and women of color blog world as of late, I thought what might be a good option for me to do, as an ally to people of color, would be to encourage something that in my mind, may be helpful to all of us. Using what are thought to be first principles, let's take a look at some of the fundamentals of how to best deal with racial dynamics.
First, a preface. When I write the entries which appear on these pages, many times you will see me comment on "our country", or refer to us collectively "as Americans". As I've indicated in various entries, I have the benefit of dual American/Canadian citizenship, and am speaking from that perspective.
Be aware there is a tendency for some white people to get rather defensive around the concept of racism, white privilege, and cultural denials. I believe it's important to point out that while those concepts are very much real, they are being argued on a cultural scale, not a personally specific, individual one. No one is blaming specific individuals for their inherent privilege, all that is being asked is that it be consciously recognized and ethically acknowledged.
If we look critically at the dynamics which help to create the racial divide in this country, the one well intentioned but ultimately telling pronouncement is "I don't see black, white or color, I just see people". A well meaning, however ill conceived, attempt at saying one is not a racist. Besides exactingly demonstrating a certain level of intellect, of misunderstanding, or complete negation of context, history, and perspective, that dynamic serves to say very clearly, "I have no clue about racism".
If you do not see black and white in a discussion about racism, while you may not be a racist, you are far from an awareness of your own countries history and current practices. You are adding to, and helping solidify the American lie that is equal access for all. If you believe we are all equal, and you believe that should translate into all aspects of daily life, congratulations, that is one of the goals of the civil rights movement.
However, if you believe that in any way does translate to a realized existence for the majority of black and of color Americans, you are only skimming the surface of this issue. And if you are gay, and believe that your experience of oppression is equal to that of a black American, you need to actually listen to, sans inclusive sound bites, the personal and group histories of black Americans routinely denied in our "celebrate diversity" gay culture.
Equality of rights and freedoms by virtue of citizenship and founding document is what many believe this country was created upon. Why then, are we having this discussion in 2008, once again? Is it not appropriate? Is it being divisive? Radical? Not "getting over it"? No. Having an open and honest discussion of racial dynamics and our relationship to them, is both addressing a problem and looking at an element of causation. Both of which are long overdue.
America is by and large a white country, populated by a majority of white people, with a generalized set of cultural norms. That is not inherently a bad thing by any definition. Although when we self righteously assert that it is the best, or perhaps the correct way of doing things, it becomes an insidious form of a very passive, aggressive racism. One that silently, under the radar of most of white society, marginalizes, invalidates, and to a great extent, renders an entire culture invisible or at odds, in turn giving the dynamic of white privilege its power.
We need to accept that by virtue of being part of the dominant culture in this country, we have an inherent head start. Because the dynamics of racism are not white on white. And in a cultural context, they are not colored on white. But they are, white on colored. In a society where one is an example of the majority culture, an experience of oppression, when compared with one from a recent history of human enslavement, is never an equitable comparison. Period.
This is the lens we need to view racism through. A degree of difference. In context, it can mean quite a lot. As one example, I will take my experience as a white, gay man. As such, I have two distinct advantages. There is one that comes from being in the majority culture, which grants me unquestioned access through most of the institutions of society. The other is the shielding a closet provides. A shielding I do not use, though whether ultimately good or bad a tool is not the point. It is a resource I have if my goal in any given circumstance is to avoid oppression. A gay black man never has that advantage, therefore he takes the luck of the draw with whomever he is dealing with that particular day.
If we look at the disaster this country has made of race relations, if we look at mainstream media coverage, if we look at sweeping assumptions, and if we dare look at a seemingly oblivious white majority culture, I can't believe that racism has no place in our countries cultural discourse. Although we like to think so, a racist does not, by mandate, have to be marginally intelligent, wear a white sheet, and have half his teeth.
The potential for expressing racial bias, without intention, exists in all of us. As white people with a responsibility and current understanding of our own history and culture, we need to openly address what that means from a perspective that values racial equality, and then operate from that premise.
Just after I posted this article last evening, an excellent thread began at Creek Running North, the popular site hosted by Chris Clarke. An Ally 101 Thread is an article and dynamic discussion led by Theriomorph, and functions as a back to basics discussion regarding how best to be an anti racist ally in the context of feminist activism. Though the thread does have a feminist focus, pro feminist supporters of anti racist work are welcome, and have been actively participating in the dialog.
"What gay couple doesn't want to get married? The freaks in the pride parade wearing leather and dresses are not really part of the gay community"!
Right, because they are "freaks", and you are normal. Smacks of exclusion, intolerance, and arbitrary judgment to me. Then of course comes the inevitable "appeal to the bigot on a basis of his good and Christian fairness".
"We just want what straight society has, the house, the white picket fence, and the respect of the community. Nothing more, nothing less"!
While those things may be nice, that's not all I want. And modeling a personal relationship off an institution with a fifty per cent failure rate is not the best template for success, no matter how you leap frog around it.
it's more than appropriate to put forth the idea that not all gay men and women want marriage and nothing else. Especially on the flawed reasoning that we "deserve it". We are nothing less than completely entitled to human rights on par with every other person by virtue of citizenship and constitution. Period. But can we maybe slow down on the "I don't know what it is but I want it too" mentality towards our future existence?
I'll attempt to be rational. Being gay, I can attest to the fact that if viewed from a cultural perspective, the right for gays and lesbians to marry would provide many measurable gains for greater society. The inherent ties to the goal of communal good that marriage can be, the made with intent commitment to another of their prime importance in that life, the stability demonstrated to younger generations of gay people who have not had a diverse field of representation to model behavior after, and the simple equality of being afforded a human right that has previously been denied. These are all very good reasons that society would benefit from allowing the right to marry to be realized by those in the gay community who want it.
As hard as I try, that lukewarm, almost sterile response is as impassioned as I can get over the debate regarding our right to marry. Not only is it something in my own life I would not engage, I tend to wonder if the implications are something the community has given a real thought to, as the cultural implications of marriage are as large as the individual ones.
I find it odd that in a community which has demonstrated such exacting ability to witness harm, bias and see unfairness put on to others, that we are not looking at marriage for what it shows us through history it has been in many circumstance. As well, I view that it would be a questionable endorsement of an institution that has just over a fifty per cent failure rate.
Marriage had, and in some communities still does, two main goals. One was the regulation of women. Marriage kept her dependent, able to procreate in a legitimate way, and run the home for her husband and children. Because, the way women have been viewed in this culture and the inherent power that is central to female sexuality, was something that made marriage an institution a man was heavily invested in. Whether he wanted it or not, it was a means of control, as no man wanted or wants to be seen as someone who can't control his woman. The inherent sub text says he is less of a man, and his sexual abilities are questioned in a harshly silent way.
Marriage is also an inherently discriminatory institution, as it places itself above all other manifestations of romantic love. A moot point to many, and one I can't personally get too worked up over, but it begs the question; if marriage is seen as a civil institution as well, and separate from a theology framework, why the delineation between marriage and "domestic partner"?
This logically can't be argued, as if the worth was attributed the same, would we have a push towards marriage? It says some very layered things to me if we feel that our lives and relationships will be better in our own eyes and in the eyes of society, if we feel the need to change how they are defined.
If we look to others for acceptance and expect it, we will never get it. Culture, religion, and society in America simply cannot deal with sexuality in the majority form, let our own, the minority. The need to convince someone of our "entitlement", when that entitlement is obvious by virtue of citizenship and founding document, is quite similar to pandering and doesn't show a great deal of self respect.
It is important to note however, as much as the above concerns me, whatever the implications, my support for the right to marry is unwavering. It has been a right that has been denied this community for far too long, and anything less than success on this front is unacceptable if we are to take seriously the separation of church and state in this country.
That is the only viable reason for one to oppose the right to access, and then only in the context of that specific internal decision of a specific church. Which has as much right to legislate behavior of its members, as we do in getting married. It is a private institution. However, this is a civil debate, not a religious one, therefore input from church administration, beyond which informs their congregation, is an act of supreme arrogance, as well not so subtle attempt at intimidation. And so very not surprising.
My discomfort over the the deeper messages that marriage is "needed", even if true, is moot. If this turns out to be in the eyes of dominant culture, a complete disaster, the point is still moot. We have recognized for a long time in this country that issues of equality and fundamental access and lack of access arguments, exist outside the realm of the probable benefit or harm that may result directly or indirectly from the awarding of the right. The constitution requires we be seen as truly equal with straight individuals in the eyes of the law. As such, we are seen as individuals, since justice has long held in high regard the concept of the personal domain. The fact that others may not use good judgment or even reckless judgment with a marriage decision has no context in the advancement of an argument of my or your right to have it as an option.
I think that there have been areas in advancing the argument where we have had great failures in putting forth the required message, which if based on a rights and freedoms argument, the issue becomes one of fairness and fact. However, if put forth on a moral ground, or "good for society ground", however well intentioned and ultimately just, those arguments will get lost with the anti gay bias, and twist and morph definitional games those who hate us on religious or bigoted grounds use. In essence, we have provided yet another opportunity at "discourse" with bigots.
One thing I will say in criticism of the vocally down on marriage gay crowd, those who do not support marriage on any terms, and are publicly critical of those who support the equal marriage movement. I'd ask why your reasons for the very personal decision to not choose marriage as an option, even need to enter into the public discussion? I don't believe the idea of autonomous self expression should be one that allows us to openly undercut a very precarious at best, goal of true liberation; that of equality. Whether we personally choose to exercise that ability, is not the point at all. The idea of marriage as a fundamental principle based on equality is the point of the debate. If I decide to marry or not marry, that is separate and distinct from my right to do so.
The tragedy that was September 11/2001 was in many ways an end to what could be described as a specific time in this countries collective history. A nations before and after. Unfortunately, in the rush to respond, many of the actions employed, and the directions taken by the nations leaders have proven to be at best, misguided; at worst, a fundamental mistake.
One of the greatest missteps has been the move toward significantly greater and increasing arbitrary limitations placed on our fundamental rights and core freedoms, as set down in the constitution. Many times under the radar of the large majority of unaffected citizens, the folding back of the rights we take for granted has quietly occurred, while significant opposition to those actions has been largely silenced.
Whatever political stripe one wears, the success potential that is specific to conflict abroad, is fundamentally flawed, if that success is predicated on a repeal of centuries accepted concepts of individual rights and freedoms. Winning at a war while fundamentally losing what we knew as ourselves, is never a win. It is in fact a preventable, and regrettable loss.
The Pen Center For Core American Freedoms is an intensive education and advocacy campaign to address freedom of expression and human rights concerns connected with the USA Patriot Act and the full range of anti terrorism laws and orders enacted since 9/11.
Taken from the main Pen Center website, the following are five things that ordinary citizens can do right now, if they are concerned with maintaining what is this countries legacy of vital core freedoms....
1. Demand an end to government surveillance of bookstore and library records
Despite efforts to correct the excesses of the Patriot Act and new revelations that the FBI is misusing Patriot Act powers, the government can still access your bookstore and library records even if you are not suspected of terrorism or any criminal activity.
Write your U.S. Senators and Representative urging them to reform the records and National Security Letters provisions of the Patriot Act and related legislation.
Contact information for your elected representatives: www.senate.gov and www.house.gov
2. Support a Federal Shield Law to Protect JournalistsMore and more reporters are facing prosecution and jail time for protecting confidential sources. Government officials have threatened to aggressively prosecute journalists who report on illegal government programs for espionage. It's time for Congress to extend the reporter’s shield protections in effect in 31 states to the federal level.
Write your U.S.Senators and Representative urging them to support The Free Flow of Information Act of 2007, S. 1267 in the Senate and H.R. 2102 in the House.
3. Help Restore the Most Basic Human Rights
Our failure to abide by international laws prohibiting torture and arbitrary detention is damaging the image and credibility of the United States and compounding the dangers dissident writers face around the world.
Write your U.S. Senators and Representative demanding that they co-sponsor the Restoring the Constitution Act of 2007, S. 576in the Senate and H.R. 1415 in the House.
4. Press U.S. Internet Providers to Preserve Free Expression on the Internet
Around the globe, brave women and men are defying internet censorship in their countries to provide critical information to their compatriots and the world. But many have been jailed, including Shi Tao, a Chinese poet and journalist who was prosecuted after Yahoo! provided Chinese authorities with his account information.
Urge your U.S. Representative to support the Global Online Freedom Act of2007, a bill prohibiting U.S. internet providers from helping authoritarian governments censor or monitor the Internet.
5. Join PEN. To learn more about PEN's free expression work, listen to Freedom to Write? Our Obligation to Protect Free Expression, a PEN panel.
Nov 8, 2007 | by
alto The following ten books have at least two things in common. First, they are ten books that have profoundly changed my life. Whether through philosophical awakening, or perhaps an understanding of what had previously never been considered, these books provided self referential frames for how I came to view the world.
The ability to be moved by an authors words is a hugely powerful force. A force that is sadly not always understood, and one that is often feared. That point is all too clearly demonstrated in the much darker commonality these ten books share. For most of the nineties, these books and their potential to teach, inspire, uplift and transform, were deliberately withheld from high school students in most of the school boards in America. On the basis of "decency" of course....
As I said, words are incredibly powerful. And words that subvert the dominant paradigm, are incredibly frightening to those with a vested interest in maintaining the status quo. Interesting how the books I reference above seem to a share a few central and recurring themes. Themes that examine current belief around issues faced by women, racial minorities, the disabled, and how those issues are framed within current class and power structures. The stuff that was left out of the history books. It's why Columbus is still regarded as a hero, and it's why Gloria Steinem is thought nothing more than a radical. That is if she's even brought up at all.
Lest we think this is a problem that the culture wars of the early nineties have managed to iron out, we don't need to look far to challenge those assertions. Since 1995, book bannings in American high schools have seen an over fifty per cent increase, and the already arbitrary standards to decide appropriate content have been widened. How far? So far that we are now routinely seeing books such as Tom Sawyer, James and The Giant Peach, and virtually everything Judy Blume has ever written (yes they are even banning