WHAT / WHERE / WHO

"Never without opinion", is certainly one way to describe this site. You are on the home page, where the 10 most recent entries are posted.

Author is Al, 41, gay, a Myers Briggs ENFP, a flight paramedic who ventured into a bit of a right brained arc, gaining a creative writing MFA & teaching job along the way. The rest? Below.

Private Site

A members only portion of the site meant for posting works up for publication, pieces that one does not want the entire net (or mother) reading, & allows a more open atmosphere in which to comment.

Email me via the contact page if you'd like more information.

9:37PM

« Speaking Of Equality...Round II »

Todays entry is more to clarify than respond to some of the angry howls and misunderstood intentions that accompanied my recent post, A Tip For The Butch Obsessed.

An entry that generated quite the comment participation, most notably yesterday, due in large part to this piece. Besides the usual back and forth barbs and shots normally tossed around on the net, there were some interesting responses, particularly one I responded to today on Jack's site.

As these discussions usually do, they got me to thinking. One of the questions I spent a bit of time on was if we, and I mean those on both sides, really attempt to understand perspective or the core philosophy f the other. I'm guilty of not doing that. And frankly, when things like human rights are involved, I'm also guilty of not being too concerned I'm doing that. 

So from the archives....here is where I am coming from on the whole steaming piss poit that is gay and lesbian rights. Written last October in the middle of the flap over trans inclusion in the Employment Non Discrimination Bill. Comments are from last October and have been opened again.

****

The last couple days have seen a lot of writing, specific to the arguments regarding gay conservatives, and the vast differences in a clear binary of competing political perspectives. Some of the points central to the following piece are the specific frameworks and building blocks in what are common ways of referencing real, and demonstrated examples of oppression in daily life. That is a concept I am convinced that gay conservatives could benefit from. As denying your own experience is considered a largely unhealthy dynamic, specific to several cognitive pathologies.

More to that point, I'll attempt to outline how an end goal of an earned acceptance, is a very troubling dynamic for cultures with high examples of individual and group specific oppression. One thing I have always experienced as a very annoying, headache inducing level of frustration, is the dynamic where gay conservatives would rather swallow razor blades than simply admit that in some cases, the liberal and societally empathetic ideas around certain kinds of "victim experience" are in fact very authentic ones, with demonstrated example in the lives of those oppressed on a basis of group identity.

Today's common mantra of post gay ideology, is that organized gay liberation in today's world, is a somewhat outdated and antiquated concept. In effect, collective responses to oppression have ceased to matter, or be effective. In this article I will demonstrate why such a movement can be effective, and why today, it matters more than ever.

I, like many other gay men do not know an existence that is marred in any real way by a manifestation of gay oppression. My career, housing, educational advancements, and many other things, not the least of which would be my personal safety, have never been challenged due to my orientation. But let's examine the reality of the "fem" guy, who may be harassed for simply walking down the street. Or the woman who is defined by, thus devalued over, the size of her breasts. Perhaps the woman who affects a less than traditional female deportment. Some may view these examples as small or petty, but it isn't your voice being silenced with "nice tits" is it?

Though the reality of gay oppression is that no matter how perfectly executed your "straight acting" abilities are, God forbid you walk out of a bar and come face to face with six baseball bats in the hands of six adrenalin ramped teenagers. Your "straight acting" abilities will mean very little. Gay oppression may not be my or your reality today, but you can bet it is for many, many people.    

Reflecting on the history of the movement, the early structure of gay liberation took shape via two of the most influential movements in history. The focus on group resolve, non violent civil disobedience, symbolic protest, and a highly visible presence, was garnered directly from the black civil rights movement of the 1960’s.   

However the theory which informed our philosophy, and provided a historical context in which to view gay oppression, was the same one that informed the radical feminist movement. This subset of feminist ideology challenged the contention that gender roles are always biological, and that the assumption of such belief served to place men above women in power structure, as well as social and sexual currency.The idea being, a positive biologic attribute among men (objective physical strength) was seen as inherent justification for the limitations assigned to women, since somehow women were lacking attribute, or more commonly, the lack of attribute implied deficient.

Radical feminism proposed that gay oppression be viewed in the same context, as a popular theory of the day was the belief that gender roles, specifically pathology of, was in and of itself related to a homosexual orientation. Radical feminism asserted that gender identity and sexual orientation were ultimately very separate mechanisms. The clear analogy between mans attempt to regulate female sexuality, and the inherent fear of not controlling it, is the same dynamic that attempts to regulate gay sexuality. Both identities, a gay one, as well as a self actualized female one, directly challenge the inherent belief structure, social construct, and worth of attribute arguments central to a dominant patriarchal structure.

When the gay liberation movement was in its early years, it had a very simple and well articulated goal. Perhaps getting back to the truth which defined it, is necessary. A truth in it's most stripped down form, is simply about our civil rights. The idea that we hold as a value, an unfettered right to love whom and how we choose, without a dictating, controlling, or limiting hand. I imagine that is a goal most would support.

So it is with the above in mind, identification as a gay Republican for example, confuses me, as I see it as pandering, selling out. However those are my own political beliefs, and should not automatically be the mantra of a collective gay community on the basis of its "progressive" attributes. The rights of gay republicans, gay hairdressers, sports players, and every other variety of gay person are equal under the constitution. It is our own community where the equality line begins to blur.

Individual decisions are, by design, fully and totally autonomous. This is a hallmark and unifying principle, and all of our freedoms in this country are built upon it. It must be afforded as much respect as any other fundamental right we realize at our core. The grounding philosophy in gay liberation was always based on perusing a goal of equality within greater society. Like most social movements, theory and practice, at some point will deviate.   

Enter the concept of assimilation. Although some may call it strategy, assimilation in so far as “being just like them” does not work. Many times the idea of an on par existence to greater society, is at the core of unease present in those who wish to deny rights to gays and lesbians. Assimilation with the end goal of an earned acceptance, serves to be a divisive factor in any progressive movement. It presumes the want of acceptance is based upon a valid and legitimate societal denial of that acceptance. Without directly challenging the legitimacy of the denial, it effectively says that gays need to "prove their worth".

Historically, that has been a problem with the African American movement, the women's movement, and virtually every other minority movement in this countries history. Part of the reason the women's movement and the civil rights movement have seen the moderate success they have, has resulted from addressing that problem. Specific effectiveness occurred only when the movements operated from the premise that their fundamental rights are immutable, not something to be "earned".  

The reality of most gays and lesbians is, and always has been, that the majority of us are average citizens, whom most straight individuals would have no clue what our sexual orientation was, unless we specifically told them. That may be the reality, however the following is the seminal point many seem to have forgotten. “Passing” is not an attribute that defines a gay persons worth, nor is it a marker of “better than”.

What is concerning today, is that many from our community seem to have adopted the belief that our exclusion from aspects of life we aspire to, is a result of stereotypical or “bad" behavior on the part of some gay people. This thesis is flawed in several aspects. Certainly behaviors occur that are destructive, and I refer to mainly the gay male community, as the women, like usual, seem to have quite a heads up in relational ability.   

Though as destructive as some behavior can be, it is a very misinformed analogy when the lack of human rights advances are placed on the shoulders of those not in the "mainstream".  Fundamental justice principles view rights in an individual, not a collective perspective. That to is how they are written, litigated  and decided. At least in theory.   

Can behavior support and encourage cultural insensitivity and stereotype? Of course. But again, that is a price we pay for having the right to live a life free from prosecution on a basis of personal deportment. Whatever some individual gay men and women do or don’t do, is not inherently tied into cultural worth. There will always be stereotypes. Because stereotypes exist for a reason. And there is nothing inherently wrong with the gay stereotype of an effeminate man or a butch woman. They may at times seem limiting, and they may have been a historical root of much bigotry and assumption, but the response to those false beliefs, is one that defines liberalism for me.The idea that those images and stereotypes need to be defended and protected on a stronger scaler, never sold down the river.

For whatever reason, there will always be those in any community who are not mainstream, who theoretically could not exist in mainstream society. We see that in elements of the gay community, as well as every other attribute focused community. It is exactly for such reasons, we must have a strong united movement. If not by issue, then by principle.

Because when most of us exist along with regular culture day in day out, resentment often builds slowly to those “stereotypical” gays. It becomes easier and easier to marginalize and separate, and soon it becomes an exacting demonstration of a dynamic which those who now embrace, once had been committed to fighting against. This is the most damaging thing we can do as people from a community with a history of oppression. Since it effectively legitimizes the oppression, thus feeding off an identical framework.   

"They aren’t like us, therefore they are less than". That mindset demonstrates the following:

A denial of access based on a flawed and subjective assignment of what confers a right to access.

That is key, as it is one of the hallmarks of all forms of minority discrimination in this country. It was the wrong equation then, it is the wrong equation in 2007, and it will always be the wrong equation in the eyes of people who truly understand, support, and demand equality.  

PrintView Printer Friendly Version

EmailEmail Article to Friend

References (1)

References allow you to track sources for this article, as well as articles that were written in response to this article.
  • Response
    Al Rae, you’ve been very polite on my site and I really haven’t engaged you other than to say I suspect we will always disagree. Your recent post on gay & lesbian rights will no doubt applause from your choir because they share your ge...

Reader Comments (11)

I know I've said it before, but you really write well. This just completely strips away the assimilationist mindset. Getting just a bit sick of that one.

Anyhow, off to Argentina for my sisters wedding. I'll keep up though. Take care of yourself Al.

Hugs.

10.5.2007 | Registered Commentercuriousg

Thanks George. Have a great time and stay off the nude beaches!

10.5.2007 | Registered Commenteralto

This is my first time seeing this, but I must say, it's right on time, considering recent current events.

10.6.2007 | Registered Commentermore cowbell

Fantastic, Al. Spot on.

10.7.2007 | Unregistered CommenterRed Seven

I especially, found your points on "passing" relative to the decade I became active. You are correct in saying that it isn't really an asset though during those times when homosexuality was considered a mental disease and it was against the law to have same sexual relations, it did protect a person from harrassment. Gays who, were not able to "pass" had very difficult lives and using the term "pass" also described a moment in time when a very light skined black person, also known at the time as "high yellow" , could pass as white therefore, allowing them to break many of the barriers of their race only because of their skin colour. This is a double edged sword in that there are benefits in both straight passing gays and light colourd blacks and that many of both, on an overt level, deny their true idenities only to pass. It was a survival technique back then but in today's society with all the advancements in human rights, to still feel the need to deny one's self internalizes this hate. I have always loved the phrase: I would rather be hated for whom I am than loved for whom I am not. I didn't just arrive with this conclusion but formed it through the years of learning how to love myself for being the person I am, flaws and diamonds.

07.22.2008 | Unregistered CommenterButch

Hey Butch,

Thanks for that. Completely agree.

"I have always loved the phrase: I would rather be hated for whom I am than loved for whom I am not. I didn't just arrive with this conclusion but formed it through the years of learning how to love myself for being the person I am, flaws and diamonds."

So true isn't it?

07.23.2008 | Unregistered Commenteralto

"Individual decisions are, by design, fully and totally autonomous. This is a hallmark and unifying principle, and all of our freedoms in this country are built upon it."

These statements need more elaboration and clarification. All philosophical theories pertaining to autonomy, especially feminist ones, that I'm aware of do not propose that individual decisions are by design fully and totally autonomous. Quite the opposite. They can never be fully autonomous since every human being exists in a network of reliance upon other humans with their own often conflicting desires and goals. Therefore, all decisions and the actions that result from them are conducted in a severely limited framework.

Did you mean individual decisions ought by design be fully and totally autonomous? If so, what is your definition of autonomy and how would a society go about ensuring it for its citizens?

"Both identities, a gay one, as well as a self actualized female one, directly challenge the inherent belief structure, social construct, and worth of attribute arguments central to a dominant patriarchal structure."

This doesn't make any sense. What could be more compatible with true patriarchy than male homosexuality, especially if it extended into the realm of the nuclear family and child-rearing? A society respecting the desire of men to pair bond and raise a family with another man would only increase the number of situations in which patriarchy is inevitable.

Finally, a question: why do you separate the subject from the predicate in a lot of your sentences with a comma? It's very distracting.

07.23.2008 | Unregistered Commentertu quoque

tu quoque,

You take issue with my statement:

"Individual decisions are, by design, fully and totally autonomous."

You suggest it needs more clarification. Maybe at the sixth circuit court of appeal perhaps, but its context in my piece was along the lines of "life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness." The aspects that are listed among the "inalienable rights" of man. Happiness and its pursuit are local, known only to an individual. Therefore decisions around it are autonomous. I think that is pretty clear.

You then question this statement:

"Both identities, a gay one, as well as a self actualized female one, directly challenge the inherent belief structure, social construct, and worth of attribute arguments central to a dominant patriarchal structure."

You ask "What could be more compatible with true patriarchy than male homosexuality, especially if it extended into the realm of the nuclear family and child-rearing?"

I see your point but you would be best to remember that we are dealing with patriarchy as it exists in the world and culture we live in. Today. Which as I have indicated, is anything but compatible with those identities.

"why do you separate the subject from the predicate in a lot of your sentences with a comma? It's very distracting."

First off, I consider this a thread derailment. If you do it again I will ask that you don't return.

Back to the question. Why? Because in general I treat a blog piece like a conversation more so than an academic submission that has an expectation of narrowly rigid grammatical usage. If you are referring to my habit of introductory usage, sure the introductory elements don't require a comma, and sometimes the subject of a sentence looks like an introductory element but isn't, but from a speech and usage perspective, they fit.

Technically wrong? Perhaps.Though have you read any modern fiction lately? It doesn't normally pass the default grammar check on Word. And really, so what? I come from a background of writing in different forms. Sometimes for pleasure and often professionally. Unreasonable limits to expression are things I find rather annoying.

07.23.2008 | Unregistered Commenteralto

"Happiness and its pursuit are local, known only to an individual. Therefore decisions around it are autonomous. I think that is pretty clear."

It's a non sequitor, concerning any standard definition of autonomous, which is why I requested the definition you were operating with.

"I see your point but you would be best to remember that we are dealing with patriarchy as it exists in the world and culture we live in. Today. Which as I have indicated, is anything but compatible with those identities."

Then what your indicating are social mores that are not patriarchal in nature even if they are existing in a society that overall may be considered a patriarchy. Homophobia does nothing to benefit men as individuals or as a group nor does it help maintain an elevated social standing for men in general.

"And really, so what?"

A necessary component of effective communication is standardization. People cannot fully understand each other unless they are operating under the same rules. That's why biologists all over the world use the same labeling system for taxonomy.

07.23.2008 | Unregistered Commentertu quoque

"All philosophical theories pertaining to autonomy, especially feminist ones, that I'm aware of do not propose that individual decisions are by design fully and totally autonomous. Quite the opposite."

Are you kidding me? The underlying structure and base assertion of all forms of feminism is that women are and should be considered human beings. Rather unambiguous is it not?

Love the site Al, looks great.

That theory base defines the use of the term autonomy because it autonomy is fundamental to the concept of personal agency. Bodily integrity! That is so fundamental to the movement I have to question who you are quoting or getting this so called feminist theory from? Hoff Summers, for the last time, is not a feminist. Nor is Dr. Laura, people.

07.23.2008 | Unregistered CommenterChloe

"Are you kidding me? The underlying structure and base assertion of all forms of feminism is that women are and should be considered human beings. Rather unambiguous is it not?"

I don't know what you're arguing against, but it isn't something I wrote. I made no claim as to what the base assertion of feminism was; I was contrasting alto's conception of personal decisions as they relate to autonomy with a feminist analysis. Take prostitution, for example. One might judge that a woman deciding to sell her body to pay the bills is exercising her autonomy if she is making a conscious decision based on her own desires. However, a feminist critique of that judgement would point out that since the woman probably exists in a social structure that greatly limits the avenues of success available to her (in other words, if she had the opportunity, she'd choose some other means of supporting herself besides prostitution), she is not exercising true autonomy, the implication of that argument being that just because someone made a decision personally and consciously, doesn't mean that decision was autonomous, which is the opposite of alto's conception.

"That theory base defines the use of the term autonomy because it autonomy is fundamental to the concept of personal agency. Bodily integrity! That is so fundamental to the movement I have to question who you are quoting or getting this so called feminist theory from? Hoff Summers, for the last time, is not a feminist."

Again, you are arguing against something you made up in yourself. Although I will point out that Hoff Sommers is absolutely a feminist based on the definition you provided. The only distinction is that her analysis of gender discrimination notices other kinds of discrimination and male victims that other feminists do not.

07.24.2008 | Unregistered Commentertu quoque

PostPost a New Comment

Enter your information below to add a new comment.

My response is on my own website »
Author Email (optional):
Author URL (optional):
Post:
 
Some HTML allowed: <a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <code> <em> <i> <strike> <strong>